This we tend toek we tackle Facebook friend collectors and also the eternal query: To tweet or to not tweet?
Merry, Happy no matter, everyone.
Most times once I get a follower request or if somebody accepts mine, I initiate a "thanks for the friend (request/accept)" in a very non-public message, and a fast update -- one or 2 lines max. Most of the time I receive one thing similar in come. With some friends this results in a lot of conversation, typically not, however either means a minimum of we tend to communicated.
Every once in a very whereas, I''ll initiate a message and also the new "friend" does not hassle to reply. i suppose i am unsure what to create of it. I see their activity on Facebook thus i do know they need signed in however they never responded back. If we're alleged to be "friends" a fast "hello" and perhaps an update would appear sensible manners. I even have had completely different|completely different} friends recommend different meanings:
1. If they need not responded when many weeks and you see them active, simply "unfriend" them as a result of they were simply "collecting" you anyway.
2 do not non-public message them, post on their wall. many of us loathe the PM stuff -- too creepy. (I've posted on their wall likewise with concerning constant rate of come communication).
3. Who cares? you do not need to speak to those individuals anyway (I guess that returns me to choice one however that approach looks rather harsh).
What does one suppose is that the correct approach?
- Fed-Up With pretend Friends
Assuming that you just aren't, in fact, clicking obsessively through your new friend's Timeline, fastidiously poring over years 2005-2011 and shooting off non-public messages that amorously detail the imagined flick of her tongue as she enjoyed a melting cone of pistachio sherbet on June three, 2006, it looks like you have been suffering some serious abuse at the hands of "The Friend Collector." (That's a term each similar and plenty of ways in which vastly completely different from the 1999 flick starring Denzel Washington, that your new friend added to her favorite films in early 2007).
The friend collector may be a wily, typically drunk beast that lurks among all people, threatening to stand up and assume our type throughout a very vigorous bout of Facebooking/memory lane-walking/power-houring.
The phenomenon was admittedly less common back within the days after we truly had to sort a remembered acquaintance's name into the search bar, squinting through the dirt of childhood and a veil of tequila to recollect his/her surname.
But a short time back Facebook added that pesky "People you will Know" feature, impelling us to feature childhood friends, half-remembered faculty classmates and random guys in indie bands (or what i favor to decision "future ex-boyfriends") with wild abandon.
Many times, we tend to add such individuals not as a result of we tend to notably need to speak to them, however just as a result of we're afflicted with the oh-so itch-able question, "I surprise what so-and-so is doing currently," and that we simply have to be compelled to scratch.
And you recognize what happens once you scratch too hard: You draw blood. And during this case, that blood is yours, in that you are obtaining hurt when your pretend pal shuns your friendly -- non-creepy, non-murderous, right? -- advances.
So let's all take a vow, as we tend to wander myopically into the New Year: Thou shalt not friend collect. although our sensible friend Martin Martini makes a robust case for it at three a.m.
Oh, and to answer your question: Go ahead and unfriend the phony. She'll in all probability simply plan to friend you once more, wholly unaware that she has already done thus. sort of a true criminal, a follower Collector continuously returns to the scene of the crime.
I am a author and that i love sarcasm. My work is posted on patch.com (Upper Dublin, Pennsylvania) however i might prefer to get it noticed -- i do not suppose anyone reads it. How may i purchase my work noticed? A author friend told me to Twitter whenever i am revealed. Who the heck goes to travel on my Twitter account? i am a 58-year-old mom within the suburbs -- please. and i do not have a Twitter account.
- To Tweet or to not Tweet?
OK, thus simply because you are a 58-year-old mom within the suburbs, which means nobody cares what the hell you have got to say? i might use a word synonymous with (and less idiotic than) "baloney" here if this weren't CNN, but, yeah, there you have got it.
Ever heard of Sam Halpern? Well, he is a 70-something-year-old man who has nearly three million individuals in his thrall daily via the Twitter account @sh*tmydadsays. Granted, the Twitter account isn't run by Sam himself however by his son Justin, however regardless, Sam's pearls of weirdness and knowledge have spawned a book and a TV series.
But here's where you differ from Sam: you are the author here. you are the one making content that you just suppose others ought to see (unless you have got some reasonably weird obsession with corgis in Cosby sweaters, during which case your youngsters are on the brink of money it in massive time) and you would like to be the one to urge it out there.
So hear your author friend: begin a Twitter account, however do thus in a very tactical means. do not simply check in and begin tweeting links to your articles into the ether. look for different writers whom you admire -- and work with on Patch.com and follow them posthaste.
Read what they need to mention, have interaction in conversations and post links to articles and stories that each you and your followers will appreciate. Then, once you've got engineered up a relationship with this on-line network of individuals who can see you the maximum amount over a suburban mom (not that there is something wrong with that) add your own work into the combo.
Since individuals can already trust you and your judgment, they'll be rather more willing to retweet your stories and thereby score you a far wider audience than you'd have had out there, rockin' the suburbs.
And, who knows, if your work is nice, maybe you, too, will score a book/TV deal. If not, well, then go ahead and use my corgis in Cosby sweaters plan. That one is solid gold.
